Child Protection
Sexual abuse takes many forms and can at
any one time involve forcing, tricking, bribing, threatening or
pressuring a child into sexual awareness or activity. Sexual abuse
occurs when an older or more knowledgeable child or an adult uses a
child for sexual pleasure. The abuse often begins gradually and
increases over time.
Children are naturally trusting and
dependent, so physical force is not often used to engage them in sexual
activity. They want to please others and gain love and approval. Many
children are taught not to question authority and to believe that all
adults are always right.
Child sexual abusers or pedophiles know
this and take advantage of these vulnerabilities in children. Sexual
abuse is an abuse of power over a child and a violation of a child's
right to normal, healthy, trusting relationships.
Educate your child about sexual abuse and
keep communication lines open about it. If children are equipped with
safety measures for prevention and information on how to report any
incidents that may feel "strange" or
"uncomfortable", they are at least aware of basic prevention
skills.
If your child appears to be unusually
afraid of a certain adult, find out why. It may be a simple problem with
a simple solution, or it may indicate a more serious situation.
If it looks too good to be true, it
probably is. If a volunteer singles out your child, requesting to spend
an unusual amount of time alone with your child, or perhaps lavishes
your child with gifts and/or attendance at special events... Beware.
Molestation can be a single event, however, more often it is a lengthy
process which includes gaining the child's trust.
We need to take the advice given to our
school-aged children...do your homework! Becoming informed and educated
about molestation and prevention is the first step.
If you have any concerns about a child or
children that you know, please phone the Royal Grenada Police Force PRO
at 440 3764 or any police station. Numbers
Signs of Sexual Abuse
Because most children cannot or do not
tell about being sexually abused, it is up to concerned adults to recognize
signs of abuse. Physical evidence of abuse is rare. Therefore, we must
look for behavior signs. Unfortunately, there is no one behavior alone
that definitely determines a child has been sexually abused.
The following are general behavior
changes that may occur in children who have been sexually abused:
- Physical complaints
- Fear or dislike of certain people or
places
- Sleep disturbances
- Headaches
- School problems
- Withdrawal from family, friends, or
usual activities
- Excessive bathing or poor hygiene
- Return to younger, more babyish behavior
- Depression
- Anxiety
- Discipline problems
- Running away
- Eating disorders
- Passive or overly pleasing behavior
- Delinquent acts
- Low self-esteem
- Self-destructive behavior
- Hostility or aggression
- Drug or alcohol problems
- Sexual activity or pregnancy at an early age
- Suicide attempts
Additional Symptoms
Children who have been frequently
sexually abused can have more specific symptoms:
- Copying adult sexual behavior
- Persistent sexual play with other
children, themselves, toys or pets
- Displaying sexual knowledge, through
language or behavior, that is beyond what is normal for their age
- Unexplained pain, swelling, bleeding
or irritation of the mouth, genital or anal area; urinary
infections; sexually transmitted diseases
- Hints, indirect comments or
statements about the abuse
The Silent Problem
Often children do not tell anyone about
sexual abuse because they:
- Are too young to put what has
happened into words
- Were threatened or bribed by the
abuser to keep the abuse a secret
- Feel confused by the attention and
feelings accompanying the abuse
- Are afraid no one will believe them
- Blame themselves or believe the
abuse is punishment for being "bad"
- Feel too ashamed or embarrassed to
tell
- Worry about getting into trouble or
getting a loved one into trouble
Silence enables sexual abuse to
continue. Silence protects sexual offenders and pedophiles and hurts
children who are being abused. Pedophilia is an extremely difficult
and damaging experience. Today there are many resources to help
victims and their families. Children no longer need to suffer in
silence.
Try to teach children about all forms
of sexual abuse in order to increase their awareness and coping
skills. Without frightening children, provide them with appropriate
safety information and support at every stage of their development.
Provide personal safety information to
children in a matter-of-fact way, with other routine safety
discussions about fire, water, health, etc. Although even the best
educated child cannot always avoid sexual abuse, children who are well
prepared will be more likely to tell you if abuse has occurred. This
is a child's best defense. In order to protect children, teach them:
- To feel good about themselves and
know they are loved, valued and deserve to be safe
- The difference between safe and
unsafe touches
- The proper names for all body parts,
so they will be able to communicate clearly
- That safety rules apply to all
adults, not just strangers
- That their bodies belong to them and
nobody has the right to touch them inappropriately or hurt them
- That they can say "no" to
requests that make them feel uncomfortable - even from a close
relative or family friend
- To report to you if any adult asks
them to keep a secret
- That some adults have problems
- That they can rely on you to believe
and protect them if they tell you about abuse
- That they are not bad or to blame
for sexual abuse
- To tell a trusted adult about abuse
even if they are afraid of what may happen
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